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Welcome to ‘In this 2gether’, a welcoming space for those who have been diagnosed with secondary (metastatic) breast cancer.

‘In this 2gether’ Ltd monthly group sessions provide emotional support in a safe environment, the space to have a voice and be heard, advocacy, information, and educational workshops. Facilitated by experienced psychological counsellors, group meetings can be empowering, healing, emotional, validating and inspiring, and are changeable from month to month depending on the issues the group wish to bring. Named by one such inspirational lady who is no longer with us, those who support and facilitate ‘In this 2gether’ have helped to shape the future for those living with secondary breast cancer. The aim is to continue working towards championing a service that celebrates and encourages collaborative relationships, communication and education  between clinicians,  patients and administrative support, so that living with a life changing condition can still be fulfilling and rewarding. This project is funded by Moondance and Macmillan and  groups are currently running in South, West and North Wales, either on-line or face-to-face.
 
One member says: “I have found this group to be incredibly supportive and encouraging and it has been great to be part of a group who are all going through similar experiences. I have learnt a lot about ways of dealing with our illness and feel that any questions I ask will be dealt with respectfully and honestly by all members of the group.”
 
For more information please see the regular updates below, or email Carys, on  This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..
 
We look forward to meeting you!

New all Wales on-line drop in service!

06 June 2024

We are delighted to introduce our NEW 'In this 2gether' ALL WALES on-line drop-in service.

Aimed for those who are working, or  unable to make our usual sessions, this will be a bi-monthly service between 7-8pm on a Monday evening for anyone who wishes to connect with others living with secondary breast cancerin Wales.  Facilitated by Carys and Andi, dates are as follows:

Monday 1st July, 9th September and 4th November, from 7-8pm.

We look forward to seeing you there!

Everywoman Fest - Saturday 15th June!

27 May 2024

Join the Everywoman Fest on Saturday 15th June at Insole Court, Cardiff. For tickets and speaker information follow the link below.

https://www.everywomanfest.com

Palliative care workshop

27 May 2024
It was lovely to see some of you recently at our palliative care presentation with Professor Mark Taubert which many of you found  a really valuable session. We understand how disappointing it is for those who aren't able to make these workshops but we are often governed by the clinician's schedules. Unfortunately we also aren't able to video  them due to the sensitivity of some questions asked as many wouldn't feel comfortable having their thoughts and feelings shared with those who haven't been present. I hope you understand.
 
Mark shared some helpful points of contact which may be of interest to you concerning planning and taking control of your care needs going forwards. This may feel challenging for some of you especially if you weren't there to witness his empathy, compassion and dedication to his patients. However I would suggest taking a look  at the following if you feel a curiosity about the world of palliative care.
 

Events...

23 May 2024

BREAST CANCER AFTERNOON TEA

17th June 2-4pm

John Burns Centre Kidwelly

SA17 5AB

We are delighted to inform you that we are organising an afternoon tea for people who have been diagnosed with breast cancer.  It will be a chance to meet clinicians, nurses and charities who can provide help, support and guidance for you.  If you need any further information, please contact your nurse or to book a place email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. with any dietary requirements before 7th June!

Supported by Macmillan Cancer Support, Angor, Tenovus and Breast Cancer Now. 

(Please note this event is for all breast cancer diagnoses)

Treat yourself.....

04 March 2024
Thanks for the following information, shared with permission by one of our regular ladies to the S Wales group. You may wish to visit the website, it looks very relaxing:-)
"Below is the link to the website for the Advanced Oncology Massage Therapist that I have been using for over 12 months now. I think she is very good and provides a safe environment within her home."

Dates for 2024 meetings

20 December 2023

Dates for future meetings are as follows:

W Wales - Wednesdays on-line from 11am - 1pm
 20th March,  17th April, 15th May, 19th June, 24th July, 11th September, 16th October, 20th November, 18th December.
*There will be no meeting during August, but dates for July and September have been adjusted to accommodate this.

North Wales

Monday June 17th & Monday July 15th from 5.30pm

South East Wales; Cardiff: The Snowdrop Centre, near the Royal Glamorgan Hospital, Mondays from 2 - 4pm

 24th June, 22nd July, 2nd September, 14th October, 18th November, 16th December.

ON-line drop in service for all Wales:

Mondays 7 - 8pm, 1st July, 9th September, 4th November.

 

Collaborating with Tenovus

09 May 2023

We're thrilled to be working with Tenovus who have developed a free one-to-one counselling service for patients diagnosed with any cancer  across Wales. Up to 6 sessions are available on-line or by phone and there is no waiting list. Please email me if you wish me to send you referral forms! This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Our Safety Contract....

21 March 2023

Group meetings can be a bit like pic n' mix......our personalities whilst all lovely, are also flawed, purely because we're all human beings! We each have good parts and not so good parts, bringing them all together in a room or on a screen can create an eclectic mix, that can be may things, exciting, uplifting, energising, irritating or frustrating, depending on how we feel on a particular day. Our group meetings need to feel safe and protected and for that to happen it's important to establish some housekeeping boundaries, so we can all relate to each other in a respectful way. The following has been put together by group members over the years, and reflects their needs and experiences, it's a kind of group contract. This can be added to as you see fit, it's a moveable feast.  Also as practising  therapists, group facilitators have to abide by the BACP ethical code of conduct, and whilst that might sound a little off putting, it's there to help  keep you  safe and anchored. (bacp.co.uk)

Why the group is there:

  • To provide a safe therapeutic space for those with metastatic breast cancer to discuss how their condition is affecting them
  • To speak freely and respectfully about personal thoughts and feelings
  • To share and receive information
  • To offer and receive support from each other
  • To connect with those who share a similar experience
  • To feel less isolated
  • To be seen, heard and understood
  • To have a voice; to feel empowered.

Group agreement & group dynamics; our safety contract

  • Confidentiality & privacy - especially with video meetings; what’s said in the group stays in the group
  • Sharing – being mindful of what you share, taking responsibility for your observations and how they may be interpreted and having an enquiring mind about other opinions that may differ to yours.
  • Being supportive of each other and each person’s unique experience
  • Being respectful of each other’s thoughts & feelings
  • Giving space to everyone who wishes to speak & offering each other the chance to be heard
  • Being mindful that not everyone may wish to speak but prefer to listen
  • Giving yourself and each other permission to share your vulnerabilities in the knowledge this should feel a safe place to do so
  • Trying to be honest and open about how you feel in a respectful manner
  • Trying not to be judgmental; every experience needs validating and may differ to yours
  • Knowing that crying or releasing emotion is OK; that it’s OK not to be OK! Triggers can be unexpected

Our safety contract; our responsibility to you as facilitators & therapists

  • To offer structure - A beginning, middle & end
  • To create boundaries - Time, Content, Safety, holding emotion, managing the group content
  • Containment: Ebb & flow, light and shade, balance
  • Psychological education: Introducing you to the potential for change through conversation, exploration and information
  • Self disclosure: When appropriate and only if it’s in your best interests
  • Risk: To act on and/or determine whether any disclosures may indicate a possible risk of harm to oneself or others, and to offer appropriate support, both during the group meeting and if necessary afterwards. This may also include sharing information with a GP or health care professional

 I hope the above makes sense. Please email me if you have any questions

 

Info...

25 January 2023

Medical Access Cards - 'Loo cards' are available via Macmillan for you to present in shops and restaurants should you need a comfort stop. Mags has ordered these to distribute; please contact her via This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. if you would like one sent to you.

Travel Insurance has always been an issue with over inflated prices. Our members have kindly shared the following companies:

Quote M2C for a discount. 
 
world-first.co.uk
0345 9080161

Freephone 0800 294 2621
 
Finally, many of you know I also specialise in medical trauma and chronic pain cases, and work with clients one-to-one and in group. Sadly, many share medical experiences that have caused psychological trauma or emotional upset, some of which has affected self confidence, self esteem and their abillity to seek future medical help when needed. One of my clients sent me this youtube clip from an episode of The Golden Girls you may wish to watch. I must add that many of you have shared very positive experiences of compassionate and empathic care from your health care professionals, but sadly, some have also received care that is the complete opposite. If you are struggling to feel assertive when attending appointments this may help you to channel your inner Golden Girl!       https://youtu.be/963WCmb2_h4